Somehow the subject of joy keeps bubbling up and lately it’s front and center in my thoughts. As I mentioned in a recent post, a friend and I have been doing daily “check-ins” for several years and recently added joy–a topic I’ve been exploring for a while.
It’s been quite a revelation to see what a difference it makes to consciously seek the joy moments in every day. You see, things like joy, happiness, playfulness, etc. have been elusive for me. While the spiritual path has brought great equanimity and a sense of peace and contentment I never had, I’m still working on letting in the happy.
Numerous practitioners over the years have told me I should play more and it always feels like they’ve just asked me to spontaneously speak Greek. “Duh, I don’t know how.” I was a pretty serious kid in a household in which horsing around, childish behavior (even from a child) and too much laughter were discouraged. I folded in so thoroughly I lost the sense of how to relax and have fun.
It took a long time to realize I have some strong beliefs that say it’s not okay to be too happy and joy, well that’s just suspect, something to be wary of. Add in a long journey through some weird and uncomfortable health/muscle issues and I’ve hit senior status with a seriously impaired joy button.
At the same time this daily joy check-in has been happening, I’ve been working on holding a peaceful space in the face of the chaos since the U.S. election. Part of that became checking each day for posts and/or news items about the positive and great things happening in the world and sharing them on Facebook. During a party the other night, a friend turned and thanked me for creating a space of calm and peace with my posts.
When she said it, images of the many wonderful things I’d found flooded through me and I caught on to how much joy there is finding the good and the uplifting and sharing the happy. I’ve been excited and joyful about it ever since.
I think the thing I love the most about this is how small and simple so many of the “joy things” have been and how much noticing them spreads the joy through my being even more. Years of gratitude practice never quite sent me to the same place but joy practice is changing my world by leaps and bounds.
Just a word change. And it reminds me that sometimes the resonance of one word over another for a given person makes all the difference. If you, like me, have trouble holding the happy space, consider whether the word which makes you sparkle is gratitude or happiness or joy or … you name it and then practice finding the moments when you feel it.