I’ve posted a couple of times on the Scribblings blog about my thoughts on keeping track of blog stats (here and here). In a nutshell, although I see that lots of people are caught up in second-guessing every like, comment and follow/unfollow, I can’t get that caught up in it. Over time I’ve realized that when it comes to blog stats I’ve taken in the lesson “don’t take anything personally” very well.
It’s a place where it’s clear to me that people have so many complex reasons for the choices they make that there’s no point in trying to figure out why. As Huna teacher Serge King says, “people are who they are and they do what they do.” So I shrug and figure they’re gonna do whatever and it has nothing to do with me. Some might call that learning detachment.
Blogging for me has also been an adventure in stepping out into the world as myself. My progress has been very slow. I began by posting twice a week but doing nothing to get readers. For the first six months pretty much no one read my posts. In some ways I felt relieved because I always secretly feared that if I expressed my deepest self people would hate me. The well-publicized adversarial nature of a lot of social media led me to believe that if I revealed my deep thoughts I’d probably have to face nasty comments from anyone who disagreed.
Eventually I decided to see what I needed to do to actually have readers and take my chances on the negative comments. Over time I’ve stepped out more and more. The miracle to me has been that in this supportive, amazing, lovely spiritual blogging community not one person has ever left a nasty comment. Every time I’ve put out a post with the fear that lots of people would take exception to it I’ve found support and encouragement. (Since I don’t follow stats too closely I don’t know if anyone quit following…)
This has been SO healing for me. In the last few months I have realized that I’ve stepped out much more not only in the posts I’m writing but in my interactions with fellow bloggers. A transformation through blogging.
At this point I’m following lots of spiritual bloggers and I like that I spend so much time every day immersed in thoughts about spiritual life. It’s helping me to deepen my thinking and practice and keep my mind immersed in new world thinking. I’ve learned a lot from all of you.
There’s a challenging piece with which I’m still working. I do bump into posts that seem unnecessarily negative or that express opinions I find offensive. Since I feel everyone has a right to their opinions, however different from mine, I don’t land a negative comment on them–nor do I hit the “like” button.
I know enough to realize that anything that offends me in someone else reflects something in me. But instead of instantly doing ho’ o pono pono to heal in me what bothers me about them, I usually just back out of the post. Occasionally if there are too many posts that disturb me I quit following the blog. In my pursuit of oneness I can see that I have some work to do.
For all of these lessons I am so very grateful. Have you found any spiritual lessons in the blogging world?