Wow the last two years have impacted blogging for me; not planned just some combo of Covid , caring for my Mom since she broke her hip and coping with my dad’s estate have added so much to my schedule I’ve not managed to reorganize. At the same time, I’ve continued a process I began a while before Covid hit of trying to get back to keeping more of life on a schedule. Coping with health issues for years pretty much threw schedules and normalcy out the window; even things like cleaning and laundry were hit or miss for years.
A couple of years ago I splurged and purchased new towels to replace the old sorry ones I’d had for years. At the same time I decided I wanted to have a schedule for changing out dirty for clean. So Saturday became “towel day”. Every Saturday, fresh towels. It’s also sort of laundry day though laundry often happens more on whatever day a load is “enough”; the change is all of it gets done in the course of a week. So Saturdays, clean towels and some sort of clean laundry.
Towel day has been happening for a couple of years now and today as I shifted out last week’s for the clean ones, I realized how hugely satisfying it is to have a schedule.
Over the same couple of years, some house cleaning projects, dish washing and dishwasher schedule have also been moving into new patterns of regularity. and I’ve been happy to feel those happening too.
It’s funny for me because in many ways I’ve always been a person who fights schedules and rigid lists of what needs to happen when. But after years of chronic fatigue and muscle issues throwing life into chaos where everything became hit or miss, it’s SUCH a comfort to restore some order. I also love that the fact that I can is a reflection of how much better I’m doing.
I also love that my consciousness of gratitude leaves me feeling so happy about nice, still fluffy new-ish towels, always clean and knowing when I last put clean ones out. Small things that mean so much.
In my recent post I mentioned feeling angry and doing some exploring. The process of looking within has revealed some new pockets of anger and also circled me back to an old one, with new tendrils to explore.
I’ve been using the Steve Nobel meditation on transforming anger one or twice a week. Must admit I’ve been so tired I’ve fallen asleep during it more often than I’ve consciously made it through. But it has been having an impact. Most of the time while doing it I haven’t been aware of specific issues, just a feeling of energy having shifted/moved when I’m through.
Part of the meditation involves looking for anger in your body. During one of my earlier sessions, I quickly focused on my left hip/pelvis area, where I’ve been experiencing a lot of pain. And noted one of the central areas in the tight pattern revisited an old pattern body work had seemingly cleared.
When I was 9 or 10 and taking riding lessons, we went out in the countryside by the stables one hot August day. Hadn’t rained in ages and the ground was cement hard. We came to a place in the trail with a very short jump/fence across. I rode a gentle horse I loved, who usually needed encouragement to even move fast. We hadn’t gotten to jumping yet but the jump was so low the instructor said we should have no trouble as the horses could pretty much step over it.
My horse took a look at the jump and decided we were show jumping over a 5 foot obstacle. Broke into a gallop shortly before the jump and flew into the air, then galloped a few steps and came to an abrupt stop. I flew over her head and landed on my low back and hips. The pain was horrible and I wasn’t even sure I could get up.
The riding master unsympathetically informed me crying and help were not allowed, I had to get back on that horse and keep riding. And that I wasn’t really hurt. Years later as I struggled with muscle issues throughout my body that accident turned out to have created a pattern that plagued me for years.
Remembering the story, I realized how much suppressed fury I held, not only for that incident but for a general attitude in my childhood of stoicism and sucking it up no matter how much it hurt. And more recent fury as I’ve realized how thoroughly western medicine dismisses muscles as a potential source of trouble when there’s been an accident. So many of my muscles problems started with accidents after which no one offered treatment of any sort for muscle trauma. [pretty much any accident to your body sets up the probability of muscles tightening around pain and if no one does anything, it will generally settle into a pattern that then becomes worse and also impacts other muscles over time]
Getting in touch with this pocket of anger seems to have helped relieve the issues in my hip — not gone, but well on the mend.
Looking directly at my anger over the lies so many Americans are believing with no willingness to look at contrary evidence, I began to note another childhood issue. In my house there was often a presumption of wrongness. That I was doing something wrong, that if I weren’t martial-ed and monitored, I probably wouldn’t do well. I’d hit other issues in that general bailiwick but not specifically this one. I could see that part of my anger has been having folks “from the other side” question my careful research and insistence on dealing in facts.
All that questioning of my abilities in childhood has left me always feeling I have to prove myself, have to work harder, and still will likely not succeed. I’ve worked a good bit on anger over some of that, but seem to still have more. And a side issue of anger at being questioned in arenas where I have worked hard to know my stuff, to feel I’m “good” at something.
Still exploring at this point. Since hip is doing much better and holding I’m hopeful I’ve cleared the anger in there. Feeling there’s still some more anger to unearth, just don’t attach it so far to an area of my body.
Two of the best pieces of advice I’ve had on this path were (1) from the transpersonal therapist who set me on this path: it all operates in an upward spiral. You keep spiraling back to the same issues but each time you’ve moved up a level, its hold is less and it’s easier to release; and (2) from the facilitator of my Fischer Hoffman group: every issue is like a daisy chain with many other issues connected, some of which also connect to one another. Unearthing one doesn’t mean you’re done, you’ve just started moving along the chain.
I think of those teachings often as I work my way through deep issues. I’ve also been hearing we’re in a time when final aspects of old issues are rising up to be released. The back issue related to riding accident definitely feels like something old came roaring back for a final realization. The other feels like some combo of the spiral upward to see the same issue again and also seeing another tendril stretching out on the daisy chain.
For the first 8-10 years after doing the Fischer Hoffman process work, I regularly mined for issues and worked through the process to release them. Then a bunch of deep body work started opening issues from the muscles and I did less delving as memories and associated issues floated up as muscles opened. For a while now I don’t wind up running into issues as often, but I’m aware this is the work of a lifetime. Always another level on the spiral, frequently another tendril on the chain.
As mentioned off and on for a while, I’m struggling with anger over so man things that are going on. Periodically I realize I’m back screaming at certain “leaders” every time their faces appear, grinding my teeth as I scan social media and follow links to read more, and, a couple of weeks ago when a station I was watching moved from old shows to airing some kind of evangelical church service, I found myself angrily making up words to the hymn they started with and singing: “My Jesus hates you, and we kill, kill, kill…”
Being self-aware enough to see this is DEFINITELY in conflict with my beliefs about holding a space of love, peace and compassion, I keep circling back to questioning the source of the anger and how to shift it. And one puzzle I constantly come back to, is how to be “righteously” angry and yet hold that space.
Many spiritual leaders and writers feel there is such a thing as righteous anger and that, when great wrongs are being committed, we must all feel that anger and do something toward righting the wrong. None seem to address how such anger impacts the energy of the web nor do they seem to offer much advice about how to feel that angry and still find the love and compassion with which to “do something” but do it with nonviolence.
I have long been unconvinced that “righteous” anger is any different, energetically speaking, than any other. It worries me when I react with anger because I can feel how it takes hold and shoves the loving, peaceful aspect of me out of function. And since I believe the energy space each of us holds adds up to the totality of energy that is All That Is, every time one of us is angry instead of loving, our energetic contribution to the web is the energy of anger.
Most of the spiritual leaders who say it’s fine to be outraged over injustice, etc. but to be nonviolent in what you do about it, seem remarkably silent on the question of how to move from the angry place of the one to the compassionate place of the other. I’d guess the majority of people aren’t well equipped to transition on a dime from place to the other.
I see 3 main arenas we as individuals can work on to help us in recognizing the wrongs that need to be righted but stay compassionate and develop non violent solutions:
Ferreting out repressed anger (or other deeply held negative emotions). I’ve noted the above video before and I really like how deeply it works on transforming anger but there are many other methods, including “process” work like Fischer-Hoffman, the Diamond Heart approach, transpersonal psychology, etc. Just find the mode that works for you.
Being able to stay present in the moment is really important. If you can’t even stay conscious enough to realize anger has grabbed you and it’s time to shift away, how you can move into non violent responses? I include more than just sitting vipassana; chanting (sung or spoken), movement practices like yoga or qi gong, and some guided meditations like yoga nidra are all ways that people of different temperaments can tune into the present.
Long ago I read some spiritual leader saying the key to coping with emotions and events coming at you is to allow them to pass through you without affecting. One of many teachings that’s easier said than done. I think it takes a lot of practice and dedication to reach a place where you don’t even have to think about staying in the space of lovingkindness and compassion and calm.
There are many ways to work on holding that space. One factor is how you “feed” yourself in your life. Are you doing practices like metta or singing chats or meditating (whatever form) regularly? Are you reading books like Tara Brach’s
As mentioned in the last post, long-standing hip issues arose in the midst of the trauma and drama of my mother’s broken hip. Several people noted the irony of my hip at the same time as hers and wondered if it was some kind of sympathy– while I think there was some connection, it’s the other hip and I’d been having some issues with this old pattern for quite a while before she fell. I’m giving a bit of extra detail because these kinds of muscle issues are far more common than Western medicine acknowledges and many people aren’t aware of the ways these things get started or are exacerbated.
Going way back, I was born with a twist in my left leg. Over the many years of body work on my deeply ingrained muscle issues, we figured out the origin point for many of the problems all the way up and down was that twist. Then at 25 I was in a car accident that injured the ankle on that side and, undiscovered by brilliant allopathic medicine, a ligament was torn away.
The injury exaggerated the twist and the instability caused by the lack of properly attached ligament led to my left hip constantly going completely out of joint and lots of extra pressure on the now-even-more-pulled-out-of-alignment knee. As a result I walked with a limp and many days it was so painful to sit I squeezed up the muscles on that side. There are more details but that’s the gist of why I have a deep pattern in there which keeps recurring even though body work has largely released it. (and for the story of my leg straightening out see here)
Something in how I sit and sleep at home had been causing some issues but the exercises I do for my hips have kept it at bay. Until I wound up sitting in one ergonomically-poor chair after another for hours a day in one hospital or rehab room after another. Suddenly my low back had problems and my hip was more “out” than it’s been since the original issue. On top of that some releases in my muscles snapped a chunk of my psoas and groin muscles too far open too fast on the same side. Because of the proximity the two began impacting one another.
Many days I could barely walk from the pain. I looked into the “meaning” of hip issues and found both (1) moving forward too quickly — which seemed to perfectly describe the fast track of opening/releasing my muscles have been on and (2) mother issues — which made me LAUGH! So okay, metaphysical reasons. But ow, after a while you just want the pain to go away and screw the “lessons”. I got this one though: barely able to move=enforced slowing down.
Realizing I’d started the issue by not exploring enough about how I was sitting and lying. I’ve had to change the configuration of my odd “nest on the floor” style of seating because of the hip numerous times, so another change was quickly called for.
It also sank in that as my muscles have been sorted out, my many-years habit of sleeping in weird pretzel positions to accommodate the aches and pains had been segueing into sleeping more normally, including sleeping on my side for the first time, maybe ever. I knew about the advice to put a pillow between your knees but initially I just moved onto my side in my sleep so… not conscious enough to grab a pillow. But I bought one of the pillows designed for that purpose and am working on staying aware enough to use it when I’m on my side.
In the meantime I’ve been trying to use the yoga and Robert Masters’ triggers that have kept me going all these years. However, the pulled psoas doesn’t like moving and pretty much everything I do for my hips moves it. So it’s been an interesting challenge to find balance in how and when to do what in order to keep releasing the hip pattern while not setting off the psoas.
Everything has been better since Mom came home and I no longer have to sit in the chairs for a few hours a day. But both patterns keep flaring and the extra demands on me for helping Mom and rearranging and cleaning house (our twice monthly cleaners can’t come –social distancing for Mom) make both worse, so it’s been an interesting time.
Because of the long journey through muscle issues, I’m much more hypersensitive to chairs and muscle impacts than most people. But I’d bet some of the really poor chairs I sat in have started off issues for many people who just didn’t realize at the time a pattern started from the uncomfortable chair. That’s how they go. Set a muscle or two off by sitting badly for enough hours and they settle into a pattern and then that pattern begins impacting all the nearby muscles.
I wish allopathic medicine would wise up and start teaching people to get something done (body work) or to do something (possibly yoga or Feldenkrais, etc.) as soon as an injury has occurred or they’ve spent a bunch of time in an uncomfortable position or doing a repetitive motion. If you keep the patterns from settling in, you can avoid getting to the point of spending months or years trying to fix it.
In the meantime, thank goodness for the Robert Masters work; I’ve been able to do the hip releases just often enough to work probably 80-90% of the re-ingrained pattern out. I find it hard to heal the psoas since it’s involved in so many of our normal movements, it’s constantly getting flared. A bit of stretching to keep the pain from locking it up but otherwise staying careful about how much I move…
And then in the midst of all this broken (Mom) and unhappy hip stuff, enter Covid-19!
My mother and I are not big fans of New Years Eve. Have never really seen what the big deal about changing years is (for me birthday is more a time to think about that) and, having put up with her alcoholic sister for decades of our lives, neither of us finds hanging out in rooms full of drunks to be as much fun as many people apparently do. So the big celebration this year involved making popcorn and both of us watching TV in separate rooms.
But this year I have been in a reflective mode through the latter part of fall, marking some bigger changes than most years for a while.
Finally arriving at a place where the inner journeying and physical healing are producing noticeable results outwardly — after years of constant inner transformation and physical progress that moved along but seemed to never end — feels worth noting.
I’m very pleased and excited at my work on the People Power series I’ve been writing here. Feel totally magnetized to it and while I don’t yet see where this path is leading, I definitely feel it’s a path I’m meant to be on and for which SO many things in my life have prepared me.
It’s been a couple of years since I began noticing a bit more stamina. For many years the chronic fatigue left me literally feeling no “there” there — a state one practitioner referred to as having “negative chi”. No matter how much I slept (and for some years it was a LOT) I always felt shaky and exhausted. Now even a moderately good night’s sleep leaves me with the energy to feel pretty normal for a chunk of the day and this year that became more sustained.
With some energy I can count on, this year has been one of trying to take back control of a few more things. Perhaps the biggest change has been in reaching out to make some new friends. I’d worked very hard at networking in my first years here but slowly the groups fell apart, people moved away and by the time my health left me pretty isolated, there were few people to reach out to.
I began with signing up to volunteer with Ahava Center for Spiritual Living’s God’s Pantry group, my first evening being the last Friday of December, 2018. A number of friends are involved at Ahava and I’ve nibbled around the edges for years. Through the volunteer group I’ve been meeting some lovely folks.
Eventually I inched a little closer and am now in a women’s group at ASCL. Not much of a service attendee, I’m occasionally actually showing up for one; really nice to walk into a group of friendly faces. I’ve pushed to attend a few other events here and there along with a few more lunches with old friends. All still a little tentative, but it’s been nice to move out in the world a bit more after this long hibernation. Feels like doors opening, life moving, etc.
The long unwinding of muscles in my face and head still continues, but this year there’s enough opened up to feel my face as SO different There’s still enough tightness I don’t quite know how it feels to have all these muscles in their natural state but one increment at a time I learn more about what healthy muscles in my face feel like. From steely and hard, many of them have transitioned to feeling spongy and flexible. So cool.
Some of the smallest things are among those I note the most. I mentioned a while back getting control over a few things like getting dishes done in the evening. It’s around two years or so now that I’ve gotten it done every single night, never facing a pile of dishes in the morning because I was too tired to do it. The last couple of months I’ve smiled and felt so grateful every time I soap and rinse, pleased to have a record so long I can’t tell you exactly when the streak began.
I’ve added in a regular laundry day. The piles don’t always cooperate by being the right size on the right day, but a lot gets done every week on the same day and just that small regular thing feels so good.
The other big shift has been trying to take control of my schedule. The unwinding, with accompanying sleeplessness, shifted my sleep schedule till it was pretty normal to go to sleep at 5 a.m. and get up at noon or later. For a long time the exhaustion was so bad I just slept whenever I could and made no effort to corral the times.
In the summer I decided my increased stamina meant I could tolerate some even bigger losses of sleep. I started off shifting the schedule by about 2 hours and then managed to get to 3 on a journey to make it 4. Recently the unwinding around my eyes has wreaked such havoc I’ve lost ground back to the 2 hour shift but I’m counting it as a victory to have managed to hang on to that much of the change.
Some days it’s a little weird for me to look at these little shifts and changes as big victories, but compared to life a few years ago, this feels like a major unfurling. Some days I’m still resentful at being handed such a long difficult healing journey. But a lot of the time this year I feel so pleased to see these little changes slowly, slowly, carefully moving me to living a fuller life again, this time as a person with so much more emotional, mental, spiritual and physical health than I ever had before.
Looking forward to even more opening and LIVING in 2020. Hope you all are starting the new year in peace and that this will be your best year ever.
In a recent post I alluded to experiencing some irritability lately and the first couple of days of this week had me at such high levels of feisty and cranky I’ve been doing some contemplating.
The orange man held a rally here in town on Monday and I’m pretty sure some of it was me picking up on the great numbers of angry people who converged here to attend and the angst of those who opposed and gathered outside in protest. Now that the election is over, I’m much calmer so I’d say that was a lot of it.
But since anger was a big issue in my early inner explorations and a lot of the processing work I did during the Fischer-Hoffman Process* involved releasing huge amounts, I try to stay aware if I think another issue seems to be surfacing. I did the Fischer Hoffman 1992-93 and for I’d say 10 years after, every time I unearthed an issue with angst attached I used “the process”, identifying the source and pounding pillows, etc.
Without intending to, I drifted away from doing it and most of the release in the last 15 years or so has been at the agency of body work therapists and/or me using the triggers of release work and opening something up. When I first encountered Ellen, the F-H facilitator, at Nine Gates during third chakra work, we used some techniques Gay Luce added, which she called “emotional hygiene”.
I used to do those off and on as well, my favorite being one where you take a somewhat wide stance, clasp your hands, inhale and hold your breath, and then raise and lower your hands while bending forward as if you were chopping big logs with an axe. You keep swinging for as long as you can possibly hold your breath. Then exhale and repeat as necessary. It’s a great way to shake some of the daily irritants of life and, if something is bubbling up, it is also really effective at getting it to the surface.
Remembering the work has me thinking it would be good to incorporate the chopping on some regular basis and also exploring whether I feel a round of the process is in order. I know that besides picking up on community energies, the current round of muscle releases in my head is off-loading some old and/or ancestral and/or past life issues locked in for most of my life.
Most of the time I try to look at this long healing road as a good thing, both (1) from the standpoint of being freed of physical pain and problems and (2) especially for healing the emotional issues lurking beneath. But I’m realizing there’s a level on which I’m pretty angry about the huge disruption in my life this has caused for YEARS, especially the precarious financial situation in which it has left me.
So I’m thinking it’s time to dust off the process tools — as best I can remember them now 🙂 — and plan a session. And some chopping. Definitely some chopping.
The return to lovingkindness chanting is definitely also helping but since these bouts of temper keep arising in between rounds of chanting I’m feeling the anger needs to be addressed. Disappointing to be back to this, yet I also know every bit of clearing any one of us does contributes to lifting the anger out of the Oneness, so I feel committed.
*Ellen, having been a facilitator for many years had devised a deeper and longer version. The original process, now called the Quadrinity Method, is still around but not the same as her work. Since her death, as far as I know there is no one doing her variation.
When I launched my plan to shift my schedule I knew the muscles in my face might prove to be a hindrance, but hoped it might not get that bad again. The last few weeks have been back to high levels of activity, interfering with sleep, etc.
The good news is I’m still getting up and going to sleep quite a bit earlier than before, but instead of progressing further toward the goal, it’s instead moved a little in the other direction. And I’ve just been stupefied with fatigue a lot of the time.
This spell has coincided with a time when those who observe energy patterns have been saying we’re undergoing a big shift and a lot of releasing. Yup. I think I could vouch for that.
Along with the yanking, sleep problems and energy shifting there’s irritability, particularly around politics. Some of that is probably part of the general energy, some to do with the energy shift, and, frankly, when I’m constantly badly sleep deprived I’m just cranky.
But I’m also noticing. Wondering if there’s a deeper issue unfolding with the muscles. I know in general the muscle patterns in my face have been connected to anger, whether mine or ancestral or past life and sometimes I just don’t know exactly what the underlying story was. Or maybe there’s something to explore.
The other thing I began to note as irritability grew, is how long it’s been since I did the lovingkindness chant, singing chants for heart, love, etc. I instituted long ago. It wasn’t really purposeful, I just got into doing Steve Nobel’s meditations after about a year of chanting and gradually shifted to doing those exclusively.
As soon as I noted it, it was also clear those practices helped keep me centered and calm in the midst of the chaos swirling around me. And the longing to do them again arose with those thoughts. Did the lovingkindness chant yesterday and felt the shift.
All in all, these recent weeks have felt like a disruption of the path to a new and better schedule but I remind myself every day I’ve managed to hold onto most of the shift already made. Weeks like these last few had much to do with the crazy late sleeping and waking times I’d become accustomed to keeping and it seems like a victory just to have held it at bay.
Of course the price of holding to it has meant even less sleep, so life feels pretty disrupted anyway. The other cool piece is the muscles squeezing my left eye have loosened enough that vision is noticeably improved. Quite a journey.
Several days ago I tried a new Steve Nobel meditation which both led to a couple of deep insights and left me feeling the meditation was incomplete. When I saw the meditation I felt right away this would be a good place to try addressing yet again an issue that has dogged me for all the years I’ve been on this journey: The Grace Transmission: Surrendering a Seemingly Irresolvable Issue to Spirit.
Prior to starting the spiritual journey I was pretty good at getting jobs with adequate pay — as long as I hated them. Once I gave up on ideas like “work is hard and always a struggle” and “you can only make a living at jobs that are unpleasant:, etc. I started teetering between starting ventures doing things I loved that at best made no money and often wound up costing me and taking low-paying part-time jobs to get me through. My financial status began a downward spiral that has never stopped.
Having addressed many many issues and seen things move, this one has been frustrating as I have thrown more at it than any other, from affirmations to visions to emotional clearing, to examining ancestral patterns, etc. and nothing has ended the spiral. Every time I think I’ve broken through and things will change, they do. For the worse.
Nobel has several meditations addressing abundance, etc. and I’ve done those too and definitely felt I moved some energy but something has still seemed stuck. So I entered this new meditation with the intent to turn over this issue and see how his mind-blowing transformational talents impacted this.
The basic construct, after his usual opening of clearing and bringing in archangels, etc., is to look through three windows, the first of the unconscious, the second of the conscious and the third, the Higher Self view. Not bad as a construct though I have a few critiques.
I guess he was trying to avoid making suggestions that influenced what we “saw” but from the first window on, I felt I could have used a little more guidance about what we were aiming for as we looked through the window. Nonetheless, as soon as I looked through the first one I saw myself alone in a hot and desolate desert.
Moments later I realized I was revisiting a past life experience I’ve encountered before. Usually it’s come up (or been”seen” by a psychic) in the context of me having had multiple lifetimes as a healer/seer and, more often, as one of many healer lifetimes in which I was tortured and/or put to death for my abilities — thus the shutdown this time around.
My late teacher Ellen Margron taught us about “daisy chains” of beliefs and how beliefs intertwine with one another and are deduced from one another, etc. I’ve often found since that memories, whether childhood or past life, often have their own daisy chain of beliefs that arose from one powerful incident. I forget that sometimes so this was a good reminder.
In this instance instead of feeling the terror of being punished for what I knew or saw, I experienced the end portion of being tied down and left in the middle of a desert to die a horrible death alone. I felt utterly abandoned by every human, by the Universe and by God.
In other inner journeying, I’d realized long ago that as a very young child my reaction to some tough stuff going on was to feel abandoned by God. Many times I’ve realized I live in an odd space in which I consciously believe in spirit and interconnection, etc. while on some deep level having no faith that a higher power cares anything about me.
I’ve worked on it quite a bit but looking through this window I could feel a tight hold from this past life experience and the resulting loss of faith has been at the core most of my life. The surprising thing to me in the meditation was there was no guidance into something to shift or re-create the view through the window. He also left a REALLY long time for seeing this picture and I’d completed it early on, then felt like I was miserably held in this unpleasant space.
So I came to window two still feeling yucky from window one. Window two was seeing into the conscious mind about the issue. It was another scene of isolation, but this time based on fears of winding up homeless and living in my car. I could feel the direct connection between the past life scene in window one and the feelings still being held in consciousness.
Again, there was no turn around moment and the hold in this unpleasant place was exceedingly long. Then on to window three, the view of the Higher Self. This time I could instantly see myself as an interconnected part of the web of all life and sense the flow of energy always available. I was also still experiencing the unpleasant feelings from the first two windows, so it didn’t feel as comfortable and freeing as it might have. I could also see the flow being blocked; I knew it was me blocking it and I could understand that me letting go of those feelings of being abandoned and lost would open the flow.
I gather the idea was the “higher” view would automatically heal the other two views, but since I’ve understood and addressed this issue before and clearly still have it, I felt like I could really have used a final piece in which all the guides and angels brought in assisted in shifting the first two views to align with the third. I understand this stuff well enough to get that he figured the final view would do that on its own. Maybe it did…
I do feel the series of views has had an impact and now that I’m hyper-conscious about it I’ve been regularly envisioning myself in that interconnected space and affirming my connection to the web. I open to receive as much energy, love, abundance, etc. as the universe can offer. I can feel energy moving.
So mixed reviews. On the one hand, clearly there was power in this meditation and it guided me into an important revelation. On the other, I didn’t find it as transformative as I feel it could have been.
My schedule shift efforts are slowly moving along and some changes seem to be holding, so I’ve been feeling pleased with the decision to shift. The muscles in my eyes haven’t been quite so wild. There’s often some disruption a couple of nights a week but none of the long endless nights of yanking muscles; without that change none of the rest would be happening.
Today I hit one of the goals in the shift. Lots of friends from the old Unity church here joined a spiritual center called Ahava a few years after Unity closed. I’ve been attending random afternoon or evening events off and on and volunteering with their God’s Pantry group but their weekly 10:30 service has been way out of reach for my insane sleep schedule.
When I started shifting the schedule I realized attending the Sunday service — which I’d given up on doing — would become possible. Today was finally the day I was both awake early enough and rested enough to conceive of getting up, dressed and out.
As soon as I walked in the door I was greeted warmly by Betty, one of the women very involved in the old Unity. Then Patty, whom I’ve known through the God’s Pantry work hugged me and invited me to sit with her. A beautiful service, greeting more old friends…. Loved it and it really gave the gargantuan effort of shifting every aspect of my schedule more meaning and purpose.
Other good news to report from shifting is I’ve been having more energy. Some of that is because the DEEP stuff behind my eye that’s currently unwinding is freeing up a lot of energy. I also suspect in looking at the Chinese medicine clock that I’m now giving some crucial organs a rest during the best hours which then helps the energy.
For the first six weeks or more I got up earlier then was so dazed the rest of my plan for breakfast, exercise, shower and meditation before noon fell apart while I just sat in a fog but in the last couple of weeks, with energy picking up, I’m getting more things done every day– nowhere close to the kind of busy days my more energetic friends accomplish, but for me, significantly more. And I’m finally growing less stupefied in the morning so am hoping to get the whole morning plan happening soon instead of just a couple parts of it. When I finish shifting to the intended schedule, should be even easier.
Another great bonus has been running errands between 1:00 and 2:45 — in between lunch rush and schools getting out. Turns out there’s a whole lovely time when traffic is light, parking is easy and stores are quiet! I’m now addicted to getting things done in this peaceful time frame. Given my night vision issues, this is going to be SO helpful when darkness starts arriving at 5:30.
Another view from my spot
Speaking of light, I’m totally enjoying having more hours of light and, again, will be so much happier in winter that I’ll be experiencing a fair portion of the hours of sunshine. Being up and around so much more of the day has led to more time enjoying light and air while writing on our sun porch which always picks my spirits up.
It all feels like coming alive again after such a long journey of healing. More about that in another post!
Long ago I wrote about a year of yoga nidra practice and my ongoing love of it. At the time I began, the lingering effects of chronic fatigue still left me exhausted a good deal of the time and the “sleep” impact intrigued me.
The practice indeed helped remarkably with the constant fatigue and after the year I moved to spending more time on energy-building practices like Flying Crane Chi-Gung, the Eight Key Breaths and the Five Tibetan Rites. I still slipped yoga nidra in here and there but it became ever more sporadic.
As I struggle with the big shifts I’ve been trying to make, added to years of sleep deprivation due to my muscles, fatigue is more of a problem again and it finally occurred to me to circle back to yoga nidra. In the time since I first began I’ve fallen in love with the short version on my preferred recording, Swami Janakananda’sExperience Yoga Nidra. [On other recordings I’ve tried the long version isn’t as complete as this one and the short version is completely different]
I’ve hit the point in the shift where I’m finally getting up close to the time I’m aiming for, but then wandering around in a fog for hours as I’ve never had enough sleep (and I gather my internal clock hasn’t adjusted…). So later in the morning I’ve been frequently doing one of the two versions of yoga nidra and it’s definitely helping by restoring some rest as advertised.
Yoga nidra is a deep relaxation practice and the claims regarding sleep equivalence vary widely. Initially I was told that the long, 45 minute version equaled 6 hours of sleep, or 2 hours per 15 minutes. Since then I’ve seen it estimated at more like 1 hour per 15 minutes and I’d say that corresponds more to my experience. And there are other claimed variations from less to more. At this point I usually say the long one equals 3 hours and the short, 20 minute, version nets around an hour.
I also love the practice (1) because there are a LOT of fast-moving instructions and if you want to experience all of it you really have to stay mindfully with it. I’d say the year I spent practicing daily did more to help my mindfulness capacity than any mindfulness meditation I ever did and (2) because as your energy follows the flow you experience your whole body, shifting emotional states, chakras, connecting with nature and more, I feel a greater sense of detachment from my ordinary self than anything else has provided me.
I also like it because my low back has issues with sitting meditation practices and for yoga nidra you’re SUPPOSED to be lying down. Yea!
In 30+ years of learning, doing and often discarding practices, I’d say this one ranks as one of my total faves. There are some others I cycle in and out of, like the energy practices named above. And yoga, of course, has remained a constant since I took my first class starting in July, 1986.
If you have any issues with being sleep deprived and/or fatigued, I highly recommend this. Or if you need help with relaxation. Or mindfulness. What can I say, it’s an amazing practice! And I’m so happy to have cycled back to it.
In my last post, I was feeling a little down about my struggles with making a huge schedule change. I’m happy to report I was soon back on track but I have to tell ya, shifting your entire schedule by several hours is harder than it sounds.
Right now I’ve landed in a place where I’m routinely somewhere in between the schedule I’m aiming for and the schedule I used to have. I’m counting that as progress and an accomplishment. But this in between place also has some issues.
Way back when school and then working outside the home forced a schedule on me, I routinely had to get up anywhere from 5:30 to 6:30 a.m. in order to get ready and accomplish whatever commute required. I’ve always been a night owl, so pretty much every night I was awake till midnight or one, slept till the alarm dragged me up and headed off.
Lots of coffee all day long helped me to pretend I had energy. Weekends contained many extra hours of sleep, trying to catch up. While many things contributed to chronic fatigue for me, I’m quite sure many years of sleep deprivation is one of the threads. Once I no longer worked on somebody else’s hours, my pretty natural schedule was more or less 1 a.m. to 9 a.m. But when a combination of kundalini, prana bursts and wild muscle activity started interfering regularly with sleep over some years that schedule slowly morphed to being awake often until 4 a.m. or 5 (and sometimes beyond) and sleeping until 12 or later.
I’ve hated that for many reasons, especially in winter and even more this past winter when night vision problems kept me from driving after dark. But as long as the muscles mostly ruled my schedule and kept me utterly exhausted I didn’t feel up to trying to wrestle the schedule back.
Now that I’m back feeling quite a bit better and with restored determination, the old 1-9 a.m. seemed attractive and that’s my aim. Oy, though, trying to shift that much while also changing liquid schedule to stop drinking anything several hours before bed has been far more huge than I imagined. And yes, the muscles in my faces haven’t finished with me; some nights are impossible…
When I can get to the 1-9, many things have a natural spot and I can see how the schedule will work well, but this in between moment makes it so awkward! While I long to complete the shift to the new dream schedule, right now I just try to take a breath and appreciate how much I’ve accomplished so far.
I love having extra hours of daylight. I love being ready to head out for errands earlier. I love having time to take a nap (so far it’s been easier to get up earlier than to make myself sleep earlier) and still have hours of light left to enjoy.
Just thought I’d let you know I’m done whining… for now 🙂
That ol’ trickster coyote showed up within a couple of days of my Determined Again post. In the last 10 days or so muscle yanking left me with about 3 hours of sleep 5 times and another night a sudden 2 a.m. allergy attack deprived me of some more hours.
For the most part I’ve been pleased that, in spite of the disruption and sleeping later than the plan in order to sleep at all, I’ve still managed to drag up earlier than I had been. It’s left the whole plan about early rising and re-doing the whole schedule of meals and drinking various things still constantly shifting instead of settling into the routine for which I long.
And today after 3 hours again and a number of things that went sideways, I finally threw up my hands on trying to force the new schedule. It’s past 11:30 p.m. and I just finished by daily cup of turmeric ginger tea and am still sipping water, the final touch on a day of watching my new schedule go down the drain.
I knew when I started this shift it would be challenging given the muscle unwinding process has still not finished, but the muscles gave me a break in the first couple of weeks of the venture and I felt cautiously optimistic about succeeding sooner than I’d assumed.
Through much of the week I managed to remind myself I was still being earlier and managing a number of items on the shift to earlier list — if not as early as desired or even at consistent times, at least everything was in fact earlier.
I know with some sleep I’ll be in a better frame and one day of sideways won’t change the general trend,, but right now feeling a little down and very tired of coping with all this…
In my younger days, determination was a fairly central feature of my personality. I remember a long ago boyfriend telling me it was amazing how I would just decide I wanted to know how to do something and go about learning it.
The long journey through health problems eroded that determination and during these recent years when my muscles pretty much took control I seemed to lose that “now I’m gonna do this” spirit as to everything but healing.
There are ways in which the sidetrack into a life operating in some aspects out of my control was a good and necessary thing as I’d always been too in control. I’ve learned a lot about letting go over years of having muscles operating on their own volition and on their own time schedule. But sometimes it felt a bit like I wasn’t me any more; while in many ways that was a needed too, it also felt left me feeling lost.
Over the last couple of years as more energy and stamina have returned, I’ve been slowly picking up threads on getting things done. And recently I’ve moved forward in a firm decision that muscles or no, it’s time to get some control over my schedule again.
With a caveat about surrendering to the muscles when they decide to do their thing, I started shifting my crazy sleep schedule. Around the same time I also realized drinking too much liquid late at night interfered with staying asleep for long enough stretches, so I also started working on a hugely shifted schedule of when I drink what. And then saw the sleep and drinking schedules impact one another a lot and the two wind up impacting just about everything. So many things to shift!
So I’m setting an alarm for 3 hours earlier than when I’d been getting up and setting an alarm to signal when it’s time to turn all devices off and move to bed. Not actually getting up when the alarm goes off, but I’m up quite a lot earlier than before. And working my way through the times many things need to happen through the day.
I know to most people these are small things, easily controlled, but for me, after years of being totally out of step with “normal” hours because of my muscles and fatigue, it has felt SO good to take charge and push for a big change. Helps the muscles are somewhat cooperating. A couple of nights a week are lost which throws me off schedule, but I’ve even been managing to be earlier on those days. And I can see the muscles and healing had to reach at least this stage of doneness for me to have the oomph to do this.
It’s clear it will be a while before I get everything moved to my ideal schedule but just operating on the determination to be earlier in everything and managing to accomplish a degree of it feels major.
It feels like me again. A better, calmer, kinder me. But me. Maybe me 2.0? Or maybe after all the transitions, me 10.1???
Many years back my insightful acupuncturist, Raymond Himmel (still practicing in Mill Valley, CA for anyone near enough) commented, “You know it’s okay for you to be big,” as he popped another needle in. Me holding back my bigness in one way or another has come up often over many years on this journey and among my various spiritual teachers and alternative health practitioners, he was not alone in perceiving and pointing out that issue.
Over the years I’ve done lots of work around the ideas of making myself small and fear of being big, from digging around in the issue to release work to efforts at changing my negative thought patterns, particularly those I see as keeping me small. For me it’s one of those major, pervasive issues with tendrils, and I imagine I will be circling back to it for the rest of at least this lifetime.
Years ago I understood the tight muscles all over my body created a defensive system almost like having body armor under the skin. More recently, as the final throes of unwinding in my face move through, I’ve been also understanding the same tightness as part of being small.
In my early yoga training, my teacher talked to us quite a bit about how we can see many things about our personalities and our ways of being in how we feel about postures, and in our relationship with the difficulty or easiness of various postures. I, for instance, did forward bend stretches with ease from the beginning. An indicator of introversion or inwardness.
Back bends, on the other hand, were a strain. Initially I could barely lift an inch off the floor into a cobra pose An indicator of being afraid to be open and exposed in the world. I didn’t exactly mind doing them but they were hard for me. Since I knew being more open in the world was an issue, I concertedly kept working at back bends.
My ability to move farther into postures like cobra improved in a complementary fashion with my becoming more outward in the world. Those are just a couple of examples, but it’s a lesson I’ve always carried and reflected upon periodically. So as my head has finally opened up significantly the import of the squeezed up muscles became a subject of contemplation.
Increasingly I’ve understood that the super tight squeezing in all the muscles in my head and face (I’ve described it as feeling like a vice grip that could squeeze to the max from every direction) served to keep me small. And as the muscles have opened up– and opened more of my body as the patterns in my head connected into and held up patterns all the way down — the feeling of being bigger has grown.
A few weeks ago while following along to one of Steve Nobel’s great meditations I suddenly opened into a sense of a big space in me while receiving a message that it’s time to be big, to let myself be all I came here to be. For most of this journey I’ve had visions occasionally of me in a much bigger, more out there life and, while excited, my main reaction has always been that it’s too grandiose, too much for “little ol’ me” to imagine I could be and do all that. Without the opening in my muscles, I don’t think I could feel the bigness as I now do.
For the first time I felt this really big, impactful life truly is the one I came here to live. I’ve been naming some well known teachers and saying I feel like I belong on the same stages they’re on. This isn’t a sudden complete transformation. Any given day (or even time of day) you could find me feeling anxious about stepping out like that or tearing up because it seems like too much.
But the rest of the time I’m mulling it and taking it in and telling myself, as Raymond so long ago told me, “It’s okay to be big.”
As I inch ever closer to “completing” the journey to health, I’ve been thinking a lot about CFS, fibromyalgia, the differing worlds of allopathic and alternative medicine, and how my healing journey has operated on many levels. [btw I’m still working on the People Power series so stay tuned for more to come]
Neither ailment was ever officially diagnosed by a “western” doctor. When I first started complaining of fatigue and pain, western medicine held steadfast in denying chronic fatigue or fibromyalgia existed. They’d tell you it was in your mind and maybe you should see a shrink. I knew something was wrong so I started seeking alternative therapies, beginning with acupuncture.
Many alternative practitioners felt I had fibromyalgia — some talked about the pattern of calcified fibers ALL over all my muscles; for them it was about how the muscles feel — but when allopathic medicine finally acknowledged its existence their list of symptoms didn’t match mine. And as usual their treatment is a pharmaceutical sop to symptoms that in no way cures it. So anyone’s guess whether my muscle problems are or aren’t fibromyalgia. I call it that because the practitioners who helped me did.
In hindsight I see it as a blessing that western medicine had no place for my problems because (1) I think the alternative medicine path has been a total, eye-opening gift and (2) the emphasis on healing rather than masking symptoms is a big part of my returning strength and energy.
From the purely physical standpoint, I think it’s important to understand the path to healing for these ailments looks very different for different people. Several practitioners along the way noted that CFS and fibromyalgia– particularly CFS — are often a result of a catastrophic collection of system issues/failures which means the underlying causes are multiple and differ among sufferers. And fibromyalgia can be one of the pieces leading to CFS. The path to wellness for one may do nothing for someone whose underlying issue is different.
For instance some practitioners were convinced about one particular diet — often vegan or vegetarian — and thought everyone had to be on that diet. Diet, too, is an area in which different people need different ones.
I go on a fast downhill slide on any strict vegetarian diet (although I eat a fair number of vegetarian meals), with symptoms that start with my digestive system ceasing to function and move on to lowered blood pressure, extreme fatigue and anemia. My life-long problem with anemia only disappears if I eat red meat once a week or so. At the same time I know people who are robustly healthy on a vegan diet.
What works for you can be complicated. I’ve been sorting through things for years trying to figure out what seems to keep me healthiest and my diet continues to be a process of tweaking.
For me a huge turning point came at the end of my first Body Patterning appointment, when the therapist asked if I knew that muscles were squeezing every single organ and gland. All the many years of treatments till then had dealt separately with the muscle issues and the CFS. Acupuncturist after acupuncturist treated me in constant rotation for issues with all the glands and some of the organs. Treatments would help for a while and then fade in effectiveness.
Acupuncture treatments for muscle and pain issues are not the same as the treatments of meridians for gland and organ issues. Unfortunately acupuncture diagnosis doesn’t seem to have a way to distinguish between weakness in a meridian caused by muscles squeezing the associated gland or organ from weakness caused by a problem in the organ or gland itself.
Once I understood the muscles were my primary problem I focused my attention on opening/releasing the muscles, a plan which included some trades for body work (by this time I’d run out of funds for endless alternative treatments…). I worked along by practicing yoga and with tapes of Robert Masters’ Psychophysical Method and eventually I re-worked the Masters stuff into sets I found more effective and combined the work with yoga postures to support the opening created by his triggers of release.
Initially I walked my spiritual and physical journeys as separate paths. Eventually I came to see how mental, emotional, physical and spiritual issues all enter into any journey of healing. I began exploring issues, digging through childhood memories and releasing old beliefs. In more recent years i also started exploring ancestral patterns and how patterns in muscles can be passed from one generation to another to another.
When I started there wasn’t even the beginning of a guide to how to negotiate all this and as far as I can tell the information people with these diagnoses get still varies. Western medicine deems them incurable. Alternative medicine thinks they can be resolved but often fail to understand the complexity and that you probably have to use more than one healing modality and combine it with emotional and spiritual work.
The bottom line is these ailments (and some other immune system disorders) are still to some degree mysterious even to alternative practitioners and allopathic medicine knows even less. Your path to healing is going to be a quest you must undertake and only you will be able to discern the impact of various suggestions and modalities and practices.
Making it even harder, at the worst stages, even something that’s helping may not produce an impact you can feel. As long as you aren’t getting worse, sometimes you have to try something for a while on faith. You have to get to know your own body and its nuances.
And you have to be willing to stand up for what you know to be truth. I have literally quit several practitioners the day they argued with or refused to accept what I told them I knew about my own body, especially some of the diet nazis. At the same time I’ve had to be prepared to listen to analyses that were hard to take, especially those with good intuitive skills who homed in on issues I hadn’t noticed.
It can be a balancing act. But hard as it is, the journey to health is ultimately up to you and you need to be your own best advocate and as thoroughly aware of your body and how it reacts as you can become.
For me this journey of getting in touch after years of being numb, of learning what works for me, etc. has been enlightening and empowering.
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