J2P Monday: anger


English: Emotions associated with anger

English: Emotions associated with anger (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Continuing last week’s theme about healing yourself to heal the world, I want to focus on anger.  My deeply held belief is that the collective anger of all those of us who carry unacknowledged, denied or buried anger adds up within the Web of All Life to anger, violence and chaos in the world.  Thus every time one of us heals our own anger, we contribute to creating peace.

The ho’oponopono prayer in the last J2P post can be one way of working on this.  Every time something makes you feel angry or frustrated or leaves you thinking, “that’s not right” or “how can they get away with this?” you can say the prayer.  Whatever you’re seeing and objecting to out there reflects something within you so saying the prayer in order to heal it within you helps to lessen or eradicate the anger.

But I know different people respond to different practices and some of us need more than one so here are some more suggestions for identifying and/or releasing anger:

1.  In Buddhist vipassana practice, you try to clear your mind and notice whatever comes up then release.  If angry thoughts visit your meditation regularly, this is an opportunity to notice and let go.

2.  Make a list of everything you can recall that regularly made your father angry, miffed, frustrated, or enraged.  Then make the same list about your mother.  Check out the list and realize everything item is something that triggers anger in you.

3.  Keep track f or a week of everything that leaves you feeling miffed, angry, frustrated, etc.  In meditation or from a quiet place, you can do this exercise; either hold the list so you can refer to it and do it all at once or a few at a time or just do a separate meditation for each item (you might want to spend a couple of weeks).

For each item, ask yourself, what do I believe that created this situation and my reaction to it?  Sometimes you won’t get an answer.  Sometimes you’ll be taken to the same scenario for more than one item.  Often you’ll see some incident from early childhood or remember something one of your parents repeated often.  Once you’ve identified the belief you carry that creates all these incidents of anger, some of them may disappear just from being noted.  For some you may have to do more.

4.  Emotional cleansing exercise:  stand.  Raise your arms above your head and clasp your hands.  Inhale deeply and hold your breath.  Think about something you’re angry about. While you hold the breath forcefully bring your hands down toward the floor in a chopping motion as if you’re wielding an axe and trying to chop wood that’s on the floor.  Keep taking the axe up and down in that chopping motion while holding your breath for as long as you can.  If you’re still feeling angry, repeat until you feel released.  This is a great exercise to do every day to keep from holding bottled up feelings.

5.  Say the lovingkindness chant for yourself every day for half an hour.  Or say it every day for someone who makes you feel angry (maybe a different person each day).  It’s amazing how much anger can be shifted into love just with this chant.

6.  There are lots of guided meditation recordings for releasing anger and/or the past.  Many you can use for free on YouTube, just do a search on meditation for releasing anger.  Louise Hay has a CD.  I used to use a lot of guided meditation recordings of Lazaris and there’s one on releasing anger.

7.  I find subliminal affirmation recordings help to shift my thinking and my reactions.  I’ve previously noted that I keep a playlist of Dick Sutphen affirmations on Spotify running quietly on my computer all the time.  On this particular topic, his Cut Past Ties and Soar is good but you might peruse a complete list to see if there are others.  If you don’t care for Sutphen, the array of available affirmation recordings or subliminal recordings is enormous so you can probably find many more than you need.

8.  Create a ceremony to release anger.  There are many ways to do this.  You might want to write each instance of anger you noticed on a small piece of paper and create a ceremony in which you either burn them or release them into water.  Or write a prayer of release, create a meditation space and go inward, then read the prayer for each item on your list.

9.  Every time you feel angry, focus your attention on your heart.  Imagine that you are inhaling into and exhaling from your heart.  Keep the focus there until you feel the anger dissipate.

This list is a tiny fraction of all there is but gives you a nice array of different possibilities.  I’d love it if other readers would add their suggestions in the comments.

Peace and update

I hope you enjoyed time for praying or chanting for peace today!  (see this page for info about Collective Prayer Sundays).

The impact of my amazing healing session continues to unfold, with new insights and feelings.  I’m past the end of the 30 day period of “percolating” and feeling still so excited and pleased by how much changed with that day.  But also like it’s taking more than 30 days to complete the unfolding and processing of the healing.

Lots of unwinding in the muscles in my face–finally to a point where I can feel individual muscles instead of intertwined, glued-together lumps.  As of another lovely craniosacral appointment earlier this week, Robyn and I both felt one more appointment may be all it takes to finish!  Thirty years later, I have to tell ya I wondered often if I would ever reach a day when a practitioner said one more session should do it.

My idea about turning my Flowing Body, Flowing Life concept into a multi-faceted venture is still coming together.  I’ve been pretty pumped as the ideas flow and the plan comes together.  I’m taking my time and intend to write outlines and make lists, etc. before I start doing anything, but what I have so far feels like everything that I’ve been learning and doing for the last 25 years is being woven together to create a new project I love.

So much is changing/has changed about my energy and how I feel in the world, it’s still hard to express it.  I’m particularly enjoying doing long-time favorite practices and noting how much more I feel, how much more impact they have.

Life is good!

Dungeon Prompts: Introducing the Alter Ego

Spring in my garden

Interesting prompt today from Sjreejit at Seeker’s Dungeon:  Introducing the Alter Ego

We all have some aspect of our personality that most don’t see.  It may be a superhero that we walk the world as.  It may be a tough guy telling back the bullies that only you hear on the inside while the world sees a soft spoken person.  It may be the shy, sensitive, insecure child that you cover up with a bold and outgoing personality.  Who are you hiding within?  Who do you walk the world as, but most do not see?  Introduce us to your alter ego.

It led me to realize what a big shift there’s been.  For most of my life I’d say I worked hard at hiding how generally frightened–terrified even–of the world I was.  How unworthy and uncertain I felt.  How I worried that any day someone would realize I wasn’t good enough, worthy enough, lovable enough…

I’m not going to say I’ve eliminated all traces, but today I realize I really don’t undergo all those things any more.  I feel more balanced in my inner and outer world–as if there’s not a big difference most of the time.

There’s also been an angry kid in there and a lot of irritability. In that aspect I’d say there’s a good bit more work though I’ve released a lot of anger and spend far less time in that space.  I’d say it’s the main aspect of me that I work hard to hide.  I think a lot of people close to me would smile because it isn’t hidden that well :-)

Most of the time at this point I’m pretty serene, so the irritability factor is not the huge presence it once was.  Sometimes I’m calm and happy and not hiding anger or irritation at all.

The journey to this place of calm and confidence has been so long and arduous I sometimes don’t notice how much has changed.  Moments like this are so sweet, when I stop and see how it was and then how it IS.  Thanks Sjreejit for the nudge!

Check out other responses to the prompt here.


Memorial Service Details

Originally posted on The Matticus Kingdom:

Dave’s (Grayson Queen’s) service is going to be this coming Saturday (May 23, 2015) at the Corpus Christi Church in Corona, California at 10 AM PST.


3760 North McKinley Street
Corona, CA 92879-1956

Please help me spread the word again, so those who might be interested in attending have enough warning to make arrangements.  I’ll be there for sure…

And, an update on Rara’s address:

Radhika Jaini WF0124
16756 Chino-Corona Road
Corona, CA 92880

Keep the RawrLove letters headed her direction. Thank you.

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J2P Monday: Ho’ oponopono to heal your world


I’m still hanging out with my “don’t beat the drums” thing (see last week’s J2P post).  It’s led me to think about Hew Len and Ho’oponopono.  Long ago I wrote a post about it.  This time I want to switch the emphasis a little to really focus on the well-known story of Hew Len’s work at a ward for the criminally insane at the Hawaii State Hospital.

This ward had become a terrible place.  Inmates attacked each other and the staff.  The staff had a big turnover and those who did work there called in sick regularly.  The grounds and ward had become run down.  Hew Len was a psychologist who followed a long line of others assigned to the ward.

He never saw a patient.  He sat in his office with a pile of files, periodically asking someone to bring him more.  He read each file and then he did ho’oponopono to heal IN HIMSELF whatever he saw in the file that needed healing.   Slowly but surely, inmates became calmer and no longer needed their meds.  The staff came to work.  The place started being fixed up.  Patients became well enough to be released in such numbers that eventually the ward closed.

He teaches that anything you see as a problem in the world is something to heal in you.  EVERY problem.  Terrorism.  Homelessness.  Hunger.  The environment.  Gangs.  Crime.  Cancer.  Disease.  Human trafficking.  Poverty.  Inequality.  Heal it in yourself, heal the world.  If each of us looked inward and healed every problem we can see within ourselves we would live in a different world.

Although the full program of ho’oponopono is more complex, Hew Len basically works with Mornah’s Prayer.  There’s a short version that seems to be most frequently used.  It’s below, but first I’m giving you the long one and I strongly suggest you start with the long version.

Our brains like lots of words and to feel things are well-explained.  If you’re not already familiar with ho’oponopono, the long version will give your brain more apparent reasons why this works.  Once you’ve become comfortable doing it and you’ve wired some new neural nets that respond automatically to ho’oponopono, you can switch to the short version.

The full version of Mornah Simeona‘s prayer:

DIVINE CREATOR: Father, Mother, Son as ONE:

If I (we), ____________________, my (our) families, relative, and ancestors have offended you, __________________, your families, relatives and ancestors, in thoughts, words and actions from the beginning of our creation to the present,

Humbly, humbly I (we) ask you (all) for forgiveness for all my (our) errors, resentments, guilts, hatred, hurts, trauma or pain, offenses, blocks, etc., which I (we) have created and accumulated from the beginning to the present. PLEASE FORGIVE ME!

(Response) YES, _________________, I (WE) FORGIVE YOU!

LET THIS WATER CLEANSE, PURIFY AND RELEASE ME (US), offender and offended FROM SPIRITUAL, MENTAL, MATERIAL, FINANCIAL, AND KARMIC BONDAGE. (Note: The use of actual water is not necessary. A symbolic sprinkling gesture made with the hand will be sufficient to suggest water.)

Pull out from our Memory Bank or Computer ALL THE UNWANTED, NEGATIVE MEMORIES AND BLOCKS that attach, knot, tie, and bind us together.

SEVER, DETACH, UNTIE, AND RELEASE these unwanted memories and blocks.

Transmute These Unwanted Energies to “Pure Light”!

Fill the spaces these energies occupied with Divine Light.

Let “Divine Order,” Light, Love, Peace, Balance, Understanding, Joy, Wisdom and Abundance be made manifest for us through the Divine Power of the Divine Father, Creator of all life, Mother, Son as ONE, in whom we abide, rest, and have our being… NOW AND FOREVER MORE. AMEN.

My challenge to you:  print out a copy of the prayer to keep with you.  This week every time you find yourself being upset by anything outside yourself, from your bed-mate’s snoring to fear of crime to the political party you despise to acid rain, stop beating the drums of the problem and instead get out the prayer.  Know that whatever you see out there reflects something inside you.  Say the prayer.

You may have to say the prayer dozens of times for the same issue.  Don’t worry about it.  Don’t judge it.  Don’t beat the drum for it.  Say the prayer.  Heal it within you.  The longer it takes, the deeper the hold of whatever it is.  Doesn’t matter.  Just pray.

When you’ve done it enough to feel in tune with it, you can use the much shorter and easier version, which you do for each problem, with the specific issue in mind:

Creator:  I am sorry, Forgive me, I love you, And I thank you.

See here for more about Hew Len and his time at the hospital.  See here for more about the short version.

Sunday Peace Time

It’s that time again.  Collective Prayer Sunday.  Have you carved out a little space for chanting or praying for peace?

If you’re new to CPS:

chant or pray or meditate for peace a minimum of 10 minutes every Sunday.  The suggested chant:  May earth be filled with lovingkindness, May she be well, May she be peaceful and at ease, may she be happy.

However you choose to observe peace, those moments of peace in your piece of the web of all life serve everyone.  Peace within leads to peace without.

Check out the Collective Prayer Sundays page for more info.