Bucket lists seem to have become a big priority in this country; I’m hazy about whether it started with the movie or whether the movie arose from a growing preoccupation… Since it keeps coming up, I find myself periodically wondering whether I have one. At one point I wrote a post about not wanting one.
Pretty much all the bucket lists I’ve encountered are long to-do lists of activities. Whether it’s a catalog of places to visit or exploits or career accomplishments they’re all about external pursuits. Underlying the lists is an obsession with living a life that’s packed with doing and the corollary notion that your life won’t have value (or you’ll have regrets when you die) unless you’ve done as much as possible. At least that’s my take.
Looking at these lists reminds how definitively I “march to my own drum”. Because I pretty much don’t want to do any of that stuff and I can’t imagine lying on my death bed feeling sad because I never saw St. Emilion or jumped off a bridge while attached to a cord. I would like to see St. Emilion but I don’t feel the value of my life will be determined by whether I have or haven’t. Now the bungee cord thing… that would go on a growing list of things I don’t EVER want to do before I die 🙂
Another blogger (so sorry, I’ve lost track of which) recently posted about Myers Briggs. I decided to finally look into it. My initial guess was INFP (introverted, intuitive, feeling, perceiving) and then I took several different tests, each of which confirmed it. We’re somewhere from 1-4% of the population (different sources give different %), which kind of fits with my sense of being out of step.
When I made this discovery, I’d been working on and off on the idea that maybe my bucket list is just different. I can see how mine fits with being an INFP. It’s a work in progress (even though I memorialized it on the picture above):
- Be Peace or as close as I can get in this lifetime
- Become ever more compassionate
- Radiate love
- Be generous
- Open my heart
- Allow the shifts of the world and those around me to move through me without affecting me
- Be unfailingly kind
- Develop ever higher consciousness
- Evolve to consciously living as a divine spirit in a physical body
- Heal this life and all effects of ancestral patterns and past lives
- Write a great book
- Write a great song
- Help others on their journeys
- Stay healthy
- Heal all anger
I suspect it’s a list for several lifetimes. And most of the items will, by their nature, be works in progress rather than things I can check off the list. I gather most people would feel antsy at the lack of stuff “to do” and scratch off…
But it’s my list and I like it. And I feel so much less out of step now that I have one 🙂