The time between

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As my head opens up and my ancestral issues fade, I’ve been noticing how much more I’m both hearing from and paying attention to my intuition and how much I’m changing as the muscles change.  But mostly I’m still at a place of waiting… and coming to understand the importance of transitions.

With much more frequency than previously I’m being tapped on the shoulder  about a wide array of things from Vitamin D’s relation to aching backs to, lately, a lot of messages about both waiting and going with the flow as change arrives.

For instance, I just finished Elizabeth Berg’s lovely novel Tapestry of Fortunes, which I chose just because I’d not read it yet (love her), and it turned out to be another fun message on the going-with-the-flow theme.  The novel kind of glossed over the transition phase but was a lovely meander through a woman’s decision to change everything and doing it by  saying yes to each new thing that comes along.

I’ve been saying for a while I just want to let this final stage of healing unfold and see where I am and which way things are flowing.  I don’t have a plan. There are a few projects I hope to undertake, but I’m getting big internal “wait” messages.  At this stage I’m curious whether I’ll even be interested in those projects when the unwinding muscles saga concludes.

As my head becomes more and more free I feel more free and… different.  Right now it’s more a sense of becoming than anything I can name, but I’m feeling new.

I’ve been struggling for a description of what’s happening emotionally as my face relaxes into healthy patterns.  For a long time I’ve felt those grooves didn’t just come from repressed emotions but that those patterns began overlaying certain feeling tones on me regardless of how I felt aside from the muscles.

As the patterns in my head let go, I’m experiencing less and less of those sensations of anger, anxiety, irritability, etc. mingling with my general feeling of calm and serenity.  With the combo of muscle releases and ancestral issues clearing, I’m finally seeing an impact from all the years of spiritual practices playing out naturally in every day life.  I’m experiencing all these nuances in part because I HAVE slowed down and honored this transition phase.

As this unfolds, I continue haphazardly with my try/do new small stuff project, which is adding (1) to the sense of unfurling new petals and (2) to the effort to move out of the cocoon in which I’ve been wrapped during the long difficult process with my muscles. The key for me is to choose new things as the thought arises or a possibility appears instead of making a plan.

The next book I chose after the Elizabeth Berg novel was The Little Paris Bookshop by Nina George. I didn’t know much about it but it turned out to be another novel about someone coming out of a rut and making big life changes.  🙂  I had to laugh when I got to this passage:

`Do you know there’s a halfway world between each ending and each new beginning?   It’s called the hurting time…  Don’t underestimate the transition … between farewell and new departure. …

Since then I have often thought about … the threshold  that you have to cross between farewell and new departure.  The Little Paris Bookshop (Crown Publishing, New York, 2015), p. 301.

I wouldn’t describe my experience as a “hurting time” so much, though I did go through a grieving period earlier in the year.  But the sense that there’s a transition phase which needs to be honored fits beautifully not only with all the “wait” messages I keep getting but also with my own sense of being in a place “between”.

While the muscles continue unwinding I’m still having trouble sleeping enough and with being tired from the constant reorganizing of my body.  The “wait” message often includes a side note about completing the healing and then resting.  Part of me feels the societal pressure to be out there doing.  But by and large the waiting feels right for the transition time.

As I become acquainted with aspects of myself whom I’ve never met, I feel not just content to allow the transition to unfold but also determined to let the new me be revealed and find out what she wants to do.  Any plan I might make now feels as if it would impose old me on new me.  I seriously don’t want to re-bind myself in the shackles that have confined most of my life.

During my journey I’ve mostly ignored these transition moments and just kept pushing.  I’ve noticed many spiritual journeys wind up being so goal-oriented in this hurry-up world that seekers frequently skip sitting still for the transition moments.

As I sit quietly in this slow transit from past me to the next me, I’m feeling how important it is to stop the headlong motion and honor the transition.  To grieve what’s being left.  To integrate new lessons.  To allow the emerging new pattern time to gestate.

So here I am.  Just waiting…  (not even thinking Godot might show up…)



13 thoughts on “The time between

  1. But isn’t it great when you begin to hear inside much more clearly 🙂
    I got in my own way so much early on that I could barely hear, so I doubted and doubted. But slowly I integrated what had always been there, and the ‘voice’ got louder and louder. And it so made the journey much lighter, happier and just plane old calmer 🙂
    It is a big ‘hatch’ Leigh, but the butterfly will unfurl her wings and so appreciate the new skies in her heart….take a bow kind lady, for daring the flight! 🙂

  2. Thanks for sharing.
    I like the quote
    “`Do you know there’s a halfway world between each ending and each new beginning? It’s called the hurting time… Don’t underestimate the transition … between farewell and new departure. …”
    Waiting time and hurting/grieving time sounds familiar to me.
    I often wonder what the caterpillar thinks when it is in the chrysalis. Does it think, “Man, this sucks, I am dying, I feel so lifeless, can’t eat anymore, no fresh air and sunshine in here…” But probably it doesn’t think when it is dissolving. Makes things easier.
    Can’t I order a switch to my brain that switches the doubts off when I am in one of these dark nights of the soul/transition time/hurting time/grieving time? Gotta suggest that at the next board meeting where they plan the setup for how incarnation and awakening works for humans…

  3. So many are now becoming aware of their ‘Higher selves’ as they begin to shed their human self and get acquainted with their true BEing.. So good to know you are flowing well within your journey as your transform.. We have so many layers within our cocoons that we have spun around ourselves through so many life times..
    It took me a while to peel so many of them away.. But at long last I am feeling freer within as I let go, and understand from a new perspective..

    And take my journey within my Now Moments, as I let go of the past and worry less of the future, for all is as it should be.

    Love and Blessings to you and wishing you well upon your continued transformation..
    Love Sue ❤

  4. Oh my! No Godot? 🙂

    what a lovely post Leigh. There is a serenity, a poetry to your words that flow like silken water through my mind as I read.

    I feel refreshed and inspired to keep moving with myself versus trying to dig into the angst of whatever is in front of me.

    we had a conversation at work yesterday about the transition/grieving/hurting time — your words are very timely — and that quote is perfect.

    Thanks my friend! ❤

    • Oh I love the synchronicity when the same message seems to be coming up for others at the same time — I guess not surprising it seems to happen often among friends.

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