Today’s Dungeon Prompt:
Do you have a place to go when you need to be happy? Does it turn out that you are always happy in certain settings? Is happiness a state of mind that you can choose to turn on when you want to? How do you motivate yourself to be happy when you want to get out of a funk? Is happiness, for you, determined by external or internal factors? Share with us how you get to your happy place.
There is one place I go where there’s a level of content and inner peace I don’t quite find elsewhere. When I go back to house sit where I used to live in Marin Co., there’s just something about magical Mt. Tamalpais, the redwoods, etc. that calms and soothes. Helped along by the many close friends of my heart who live there.
My apartment was in the home of one of my teachers and it’s a property that sees ceremonies, meditations, workshops on metaphysical topics, etc. on a regular basis so I suspect the energy of that particular property is part of the special healing.
For the most part, though, I’d say I find happiness anywhere, any time by choosing it. Twenty some years ago I took a class with my teacher and friend, Ellen Margron, called Emotional Mastery. Though there was more to it, she believed we have a full array of emotions so we may experience an amazing palette of feeling tones and the choice of which one to have at any given moment is entirely ours.
The main exercise we did over and over was to go inward while she [eventually we all taped ourselves so we could do the exercise any time] slowly named dozens of nuances of feeling/emotional tones. She’d give us a little time to find that tone and move into it, then move on to the next. Eventually we understood that we could move from one emotion to another at will.
With enough practice we learned how to take note of our feelings in any given moment, decide whether we wanted to stay with that feeling and choose to move into a different one. If I’m feeling melancholy or tired or angry or whatever, I know I can take a breath, think “happy”, or “joyful” or “tranquil” and change the feeling any time I wish to.
Am I always mindful enough to note how I’m feeling and make a choice? Nope. I’m not that mindful yet. But often enough, I decide to feel happy and then I just am. It goes with me everywhere and creates happiness within. I don’t need to use it much when I’m visiting Marin 🙂