Perhaps my favorite aspect of this journey has been observing not only my own transformation but realizing the infinite potential we all have to transform any aspect of our lives at any time. If you’re willing to change and accept the consequence that many other aspects of your life will also change, you can.
Change, of course, is inherent. You age, you lose and grow hair and cells, people around you move and die, etc. The wonder of saying yes is to see how life can be continually transforming by choice and you have all these opportunities to participate and change with it.
In the practice of right speech you learn that all conversation can lead all parties to it in a new direction. If everyone enters a conversation willing to really listen and to move their positions then any discussion they have is an opportunity for them all to wind up in a new place. With that openness, all of life becomes a dance in which you can keep becoming new. Like the yin and yang, symbol of change, everything moves continually from one state to another. Join the dance and you get to do some of the choreography.
I’ve watched myself change in many small–and some big–steps from a shy, withdrawn, neurotic, anxious, unhappy person to an outgoing leader who teaches classes and takes charge and stays serene. While I’ve loved all the transformations, there have been friends who fell away because they were less enthusiastic. One who bonded with me over mutual illnesses drifted away when I became well. Some who didn’t like the spiritual path I took faded out of sight.
I learned to take the losses philosophically. Some friendships just can’t move into a new phase. My best friends have celebrated the growth and change and for every friend lost, new friends showed up. I think we often hesitate at the threshold of change because of those “down” sides. But really life brings loss among its cycles. When you accept that and face forward to constantly grow you’ll see that life also brings you wonderful surprises.
Has your journey brought you transformation? Do you welcome change or try to avoid it? Are you open to being new?
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